Natural/Curly hair was not the best thing to have over the years growing up as society made it a point that women with natural hair was rather termed unaccepted. My hair journey has been a rocky one as I went through different stages with my hair. The relaxer phase, every day cloud 9 usage in attempt to get it super straight all this making my hair unable to grow, unhealthy and definitely not glowing.
I still had virgin hair at the age of 16. My sister would often tease me and said I looked like Oprah Winfrey with my thick flicked up hair. Other times, I covered the right side of my face with my hair , which made me look like pop eye. I then decided to sheen straight my hair as I thought it would be more softer then relaxer my curls were gone, my hair was thin and I could finally manage my hair. I experimented with my hair which in turn destroyed the condition of it. I relaxed my hair for many years removing the curl and I would hardly have my hair loose as it was thin and looked limp.
July 2011, before I left for Qatar it was the last time I ever relaxed my hair I decided to transition and have no chemicals on my hair. I shared an apartment with a Indian lady in Qatar and I would regularly see her oil her hair, Indian women just take extra care of their hair and it really shows how healthy and beautiful it is. To my advantage she shared her hair oiling secret which was almond oil, caster oil, coconut oil. Mix those together and Bobs your uncle. I started the oil routine journey before wash day once a week as I consulted with a Brazilian salon and advised curly hair as to be washed once a week to preserve all the oils in the hair as curly hair tends to get dry. I was on a healthy hair journey packed, ready and motivated and would hardly use heat on my hair while flying as I found it convenient and easy to tie my hair in a bun for work as it looked professional. I would only blow out my hair and cloud 9 it when I came home to SA as my hubby and mother preferred it straight. The condition of my hair was looking better ,healthy and finally glowing.
Then came the ombre trend…I decided to experiment which was a big no no, causing damage, as the top part of my hair was still curly and bottom was distorted dead straight. I immediately went into recovery mood and checked out some You-Tube videos in attempt to get my hair help and I found a Keratin Reconstructer which helped, however my ends was still damaged. I coloured my hair back to my natural black and I transitioned once again I’m hoping to continue on this journey.
Its been eighteen months; since I peroxided my hair, six months since I coloured it. I’ll do a six month colour just to revitalise and brighten my natural colour using peroxide free products. So what I find works well for my hair is deep conditioning, protein treatments, vitamins, oiling and regular trims. I would alternate one month natural and one month straight as that is my hubby’s favourite look and of course to prevent heat damage. My hair is far from where I want it as my curls at the ends needs TLC after all that damage. I am thinking of cutting it into a lob, but I’m two minded as it took me seven years to get it to my length as my hair tends to grow very slow. So guys, give me suggestions?
That being said, hair is a complex thing as is most things in the human body and we should nourish, feed and take care of it being natural, straight. We all have different hair needs, but ultimately we have to embrace what makes us different, unique and appreciate the small things in life.
We are our own kind of beautiful, we all have flaws, we all have battles to fight.
Let’s strive for a healthy mind, body, and hair
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Let’s REIGN IN STYLE…